Simple Pointers

• No one is ever required to dance with another person or to explain themselves for declining a social dance. That being said, if a new person asks you to dance, why not accept their invitation (regardless of gender)? You might have fun, learn something, or even meet a new friend! If not, the song will be over shortly, and you can always stop mid dance, if necessary. Dancing should be fun and safe, so if someone who makes you feel unsafe asks you to dance, decline their invitation (and if you still feel unsafe, please alert the organizers of the event). Only want to dance with one person all night? That's ok, and if you stay physically connected to that person between dances (holding hands, for instance) it will help suggest to other dancers that you already have a partner for the next dance.
• Sometimes you would like to accept an invitation to dance, but there are extenuating circumstances, so feel free to communicate that. Some examples might be: "I already promised this dance to someone else, can I have the next one?" "I need a breather, how about the next dance?" "I don't know this dance, how about the next one?" "I'm dancing the lead part, but thank you for asking!" "Since we just danced that last song, let's catch another song a little later." And then keep your eye out for that person so you can ask them to dance, since they may feel shy asking you again.
• Wear clothing and shoes that allow you to move without getting in the way of others. Try spinning around a few times at home to make sure that your shoes aren't too sticky or too slick and that your hair and accessories won't be catching on clothing, flying all over the dance floor, or in your partner's face.
• When entering a new dance space, take note of the customs of the regulars. For instance, if the floor is small, watch to see if everyone dances in a very compact way or if people take turns using the little space available. Or, if there are people dancing in the line of dance (moving around the floor in a big circle), either join the line of dance, or dance in the middle of the floor.
• Don't ask the same person to dance too many times (unless you're good friends). Give everyone a chance to dance with many partners.
• Treat live musicians, bartenders, instructors, etc, politely and tip whenever appropriate.
• Lifts and dips can be unsafe for other dancers sharing the floor, so they are frowned upon at many social dance events. Better to save lifts and dips for classes, performances, and competitions.
• If you've had too much to drink, stay off the dance floor.
• Please be aware of your own safety and the safety of the other dancers on the floor. If you are leading, it is especially important that you prioritize safety.
• Social partner dancing should be fun for everyone! Stay positive and kind and have fun!